Your Marvellous Mind

In order to understand how one can control his/her thinking it is important to first understand where the thinking takes place. Thinking is done in our mind. Even though our brain takes part in controlling of the body's reflexes, our mind is not the brain. Brain is just a switching station that is controlled by the mind.

Dr. Thurman Flee stated that “The mind is an activity not a thing. No one has ever seen the mind. In order to gain clarity and eliminate confusion, I will create an image we can work with.”

He drew this image to simplify on how the mind works. The Conscious Mind is also known as our thinking or rational mind. Sub-conscious mind is also known as our emotional mind. Our conscious mind has the ability to accept or reject information but whatever goes into our sub-conscious mind is accepted.

Almost 95% of us use the five senses to comprehend the events or/and outcomes in the environment. So most of us respond according to our present results.

If we are in a difficult financial situation then our main focus is on the debts and other financial burdens. Since the focus is on the difficulties, we neglect the available opportunities that might help us to solve the problem. In many cases this happens at a sub-conscious level.

Similarly, a person facing emotional trauma mainly focuses on the pain which creates worry and doubt that turns into fear. In the long run, the fear changes into anxiety and the suppressed emotions turns into depression that causes disease and disintegration of one's self ultimately resulting in death. Such individuals reflect their pain based on an event in the past or an event in the present and ends up being stuck in a vicious cycle of being a victim of their circumstances getting same results over and over again.

When an emotional trauma happens in childhood, people carry it into their adulthood. Some traumas are suppressed and when people confront similar events in their adulthood the suppressed emotions are triggered which creates fear or negative emotions. Most of the time this freezes the individual and prevent them from taking action which results in developing anxiety. The suppressed emotions turn into depression.

Similarly an individual can choose to see the positive aspect of life through understanding which can be achieved by studying the situation they are in. This occurs in your conscious mind. This creates faith which will aid one's well-being. Well-being is expressed by the body accelerating effects that makes body at-ease. When your body is at ease, creativity occurs where you grow as an individual.

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