The Psychology Behind My Fear of Fame – And Why I Chose to Rise Anyway

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Fame can be a powerful motivator or a silent fear, shaped by early life experiences and societal narratives. For many, it comes with applause and admiration. For others, it carries the weight of expectations, judgment, and self-doubt. My journey with the fear of fame began in childhood—long before I ever considered writing a book, starting a business, or inspiring others.

Growing up, I believed fame belonged to a select few—those with wealth, titles, or beauty that aligned with societal ideals. As a ten-year-old, I watched how children from well-off families were chosen to perform in school events while I, noticeably taller and less privileged, was overlooked. I remember that sting of rejection. Yet just weeks later, I was chosen to lead a dance in the school's anniversary celebration. That moment taught me an early but powerful truth: rejection isn't the end—sometimes, it's redirection.

Despite this lesson, the fear of being seen lingered. Years later, as an adult building a business and shaping a new identity, I faced that fear again. Not because I lacked courage, but because I questioned my worth. Could someone like me, with fewer years of formal experience, truly influence others? Was I capable of writing a book that could change lives—or would I fall short of the standards I set for myself?

Psychology offers a term for this internal dialogue: impostor syndrome. It’s the persistent belief that you're not as competent as others perceive you to be, despite clear evidence of your success. This syndrome often targets high achievers who internalize their accomplishments as luck rather than as a result of skill. My own inner critic whispered doubts for five long years, holding back the voice that had already helped people through coaching, mentoring, and speaking.

What changed? It was the simple recognition that the very things I feared—judgment, inexperience, imperfection—were also the things that made my voice relatable and human. I began seeing negative comments not as attacks, but as signs that my message was stirring something in others. Even disagreement is a form of engagement; it means people are thinking, reflecting, perhaps even transforming.

So I began to write. A blog post turned into another, and soon I noticed readers coming back—some grateful, some skeptical, but all impacted. I remembered why I started. Not to prove myself, but to serve. I started to believe that someone, somewhere, might read my words and feel understood, hopeful, or brave enough to try.

Today, I understand that the fear of fame is rarely about public attention. It is about the fear of being seen—truly seen—for who we are and who we’re becoming.

I am grateful for God's timing. After nine years away from the corporate world, returning to the professional space with nothing but hope and resilience was no small feat. My faith reminded me that whatever happens, it will not destroy me. I am protected. I am guided. I am enough.

So, if you are holding back from starting your business, your creative journey, or your calling, remember this simple formula:

The Formula for Moving Through Fear to Purpose 

R³ = Reflect → Reframe → Rise

Reflect on the beliefs holding you back.

Reframe rejection as redirection.

Rise with your values, knowing you are enough.

The most powerful change always starts within. Whether you're a stay-at-home mother with a dream or someone rebuilding life after years away from the professional world—your voice matters. Your story matters. You don’t need permission to be seen.

Let this blog be your sign. Start where you are. Speak your truth. Rise anyway.